How to Get Your Child to Stop Crying
How to get your child to stop crying? We live in a world where we are constantly told what to do, how to do it, and when. From the moment you wake up to when you go to sleep, someone tells you what you need to do. And for some people, this can become all too much. So they stop listening. Worst, they tune out altogether and feel like nothing is going on inside their mind at all.
But feeling “nothing” isn’t always a bad thing: sometimes it means that your brain has shut down. It’s trying to protect itself from being overloaded with information by blocking off thoughts and feelings until things calm down again.
When your baby is crying, it can be hard to know what to do. But there are a few things that work for some people. Some of these things are medicine, and sometimes you need to tell them that they can cry or have a toy they like. But there are other things that you can try before you go down this route.
#1: Reassure Them With Touch and Sound
When babies cry, they’re usually looking for a few things – love and attention, but also food, reassurance, and comfort. Sometimes, all it takes is to stroke or hug. When they’re crying, reassure them and let them know that you’re there and want to help. Even if it isn’t your baby, offer a hug anyway – they will appreciate the thought. If you are unable to do this, get someone else who can.
If you have other children, make sure that they spend some time with their siblings because often, love for one is love for all. And as strong as the bond between parent and child, siblings are always willing to come together in times of hardship too. The strong bonds between siblings are formed when they suffer through the same problems together. It is just not the happy times but unhappy times too (like when one of them is unwell at home)
#2: Speak Softly but Keep a Positive Tone
Your baby is crying, and you can tell that they’re upset and likely in pain. But there are ways of dealing with this without being aggressive or forceful. One of the best things you can do when your child is crying is to speak softly. Keep a positive tone. This will often work on its own. Babies are very good at picking up the emotions of others around them. The baby will soon pick up on the fact that you’re calm. If they’ve been aroused by someone else (like their sibling who was angry), then it’s possible for you to use your tone and words. It will help get them back into an easy-going state quickly too.
#3: Try a ‘Pain Pass’ Technique
While you’re there touching them and speaking softly to them, place your hand on their tummy. This will activate the Vagus nerve. It will help balance out the brain chemicals in your child. But if they continue crying, try singing or humming too (a favorite song of theirs). Be creative. Just about anything will likely work because babies don’t like the preconceived notions that pain relief needs to come from a specific product. Their eyes may well light up when you start performing, and they’ll soon be smiling and enjoying some much-needed distraction from their troubles.
#4: Ask Them What They Need
One of the best tips for helping an upset baby is actually to ask them what they need. This is especially helpful if your baby isn’t speaking yet. They may not be able to tell you verbally, but often their cries have a common theme. It’s easy to determine whether or not they are hungry, tired/overstimulated by sound or light, or having some other issue. Other times the baby has an actual minor problem that can be quickly resolved with a quick trip to the doctors’ office (like last time when my 3-month-old had an ear infection).
#5: Stay Calm ... Period
There is no such thing as being too careful about calming yourself down before comforting your child – particularly if you have a little bit of a rough spot yourself. Whether you had a bad morning, an argument with your partner, a sensitive stomach, etc. You need to stay calm for them. Otherwise, what’s the point? If they can’t rely on you to keep it together when they are upset, who else will help them?
#6: Make Sure They Are Safe
In some cases, this is easy – like when you’re in your living room holding them, and there isn’t anything immediately around that might harm them if they fall/kick something over/etc. On the other hand, there are times when I hold my daughter, and we have the TV on, and she kicks the table next to us, or one of our cats jumps into her face (she doesn’t like being surprised by that!). At those times, it’s nice to be able to sit on the couch in a safe place so I can give her my full attention.
#7: Know What You’re Doing Beforehand
Unless you are highly experienced at this, don’t just have your baby start crying and then tell them, “Okay, now stop crying!” First of all, if you do that, how often do you think they’ll believe that? Second, there is no way you will be able to truly help them unless you are sure of what you’re doing. There is a saying in medicine that if something seems too good to be true, it probably is! This applies strongly here – even if an approach works for one child (like carrying/rocking them, walking around the room with them on your hip, etc.), it may not work for another.
#8: Pick Them up and Carry Them Around
This is one of the most frequently referred to ways to help calm an upset baby. It makes sense, too – babies like being close to us, which is why they cry when they are out of reach. Having them in arms makes us feel like we are helping them immediately. So once you’ve done steps 1-8 (if needed), try picking your baby up and holding them while you walk around the room. Just be careful not to bump into things!
#9: Sing a Song or Play Music
Singing is another frequently listed way of helping a baby calm down, but there is something else that can have an even more powerful effect – music. All you need to do is play a song with a tempo matching your rocking/walking pace. This has the advantage of keeping your hands free, so you don’t drop them when they start thrashing around (which will happen at some point).
#10: Offer Them a Different Position
If you’ve been holding your baby, back-walking them on your hip, carrying them around the room, or standing as they cry and nothing is working yet – try getting down to their level, sitting on the floor, and letting them sit up next to you. It can be tough on the knees in some cases, but it’s worth a try.
#11: Try Rubbing Their Belly or Back
If you want to do something a little more technical than just holding them and rocking for hours, try rubbing their back or belly (or both) with your fingertips.
In conclusion, this article has offered some advice on how to get your child to stop crying and feel better. If you’re looking for more information about the science of why infants cry so much, what’s going through their minds when they are upset or scared, and other insights into infant mental health – we encourage you to check out our blog. We’ve spent years studying pediatric psychology and have written many articles that will be beneficial in developing a deeper understanding of children’s behavior during these times. Key takeaway points: Crying is an automatic response that can help babies release pent-up tension; it doesn’t mean there is something wrong with them. Babies don’t understand time and adults, which may account for why they cry before, during, and after meals. They’re not able to communicate their needs, so we have to understand what those are.